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The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga

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There is no escape from your own subjectivity. At present, the world seems complicated and mysterious to you, but if you change, the world will appear more simple. The issue is not about how the world is, but about how you are.

Without question, there is no shortage of behaviour that is evil. But no one, not even the most hardened criminal, becomes involved in crime purely out of a desire to engage in evil acts. Every criminal has an internal justification for getting involved in crime.

The Greek word for “good” (agathon) does not have a moral meaning. It just means “beneficial.” Conversely, the word for “evil” (kakon) means “not beneficial.” Our world is rife with injustices and misdeeds of all kinds, yet there is not one person who desires evil in the purest sense of the word, that is to say something “not beneficial.”

School is unique as you have a community of people who are actually pay an attention to you. At some point you may realise that others aren’t paying attention to you and often simply trying to serve their own agendas.

Break down things into task and deliberately decide which actions you will take.  Remember the moment you leave the teacup, that raging storm will be gone, and a gentle breeze will greet you in its place.

With psychology what you focus on is important.  There can be a vertical or horizontal relationship you can have with others.  A vertical relationship is a hierarchy this can involve judging others – in theory we should have all horizontal relationships, seeing each other as peers. 

We need the courage to do things ourselves, and also to leave others.  Empower others to complete the tasks they say they will and trust they will.

Comparison is in general a bad thing.  Comparisons give you pressure, making you compete with other people. Instead of enjoy your successes.  When looking for flaws and problems it depends what you pay attention on – what you look for is often what you get.  


Life is not a line it is a series of dots called now so enjoy the present.

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