Book written by psychotherapist which in part explains why unnecessarily lengthy and can be summarised in few sentences.
Contains stories about couples who attended unhappy with (mainly) the sexual aspect of their relationship. Unusual non evidence based theories about the meaning behind these issues and meaning of some fantasies are provided.
Erotic intelligence involves creating distance and creating lust. Argues desire increases with distance. Love is about having, desire is about wanting. In some couples the balance of intimate versus erotic can be challenging, i.e. more intimate can lose eros.
Not really an inspirational book in my opinion, but widely acclaimed.